It is hard for people who don't have a child from hard places to understand,
what goes through the mind of a child.
Actually, it is hard for a parent who has a child with a hard, hard history
to understand what is going through the mind of their child.
But this I know,
it is their pain,
it is their hurts,
it is their emotions,
it is their healing!
There are many times that we are reminded to make sure
our boys have their skin oiled so that their beautiful African skin
Or that their hair is just so.
I truly understand the need for this!
my boys don't and they don't always want to be oiled up
or lotioned up!
Because they have their personal reasons -
and I have to respect that.
I have a daughter who cries every summer because she has,
what we thought, a beautiful tan.
But in her mind, this was horrible!
She cries and scrubs her skin to get the tan off.
All in all,
this is who they are -
hard times and all.
But helping them be comfortable in their own skin is what we are working on.
I appreciate concern from others about my Ethiopian boys hair
and skin -
but please know that sometimes
the bigger issues is a lot deeper then their skin.