Wednesday, July 30, 2014

A bib? Really?

This week has been amazing at TBRI Training,
(Trust Based Relational Intervention).
This training is essential for anyone who parents,
or works with children from hard places!!

What is "a child from hard places"?
Any child who has experienced early risk factors...
- Difficult pregnancy
- Difficult birth
- Early hospitalization
- Abuse
- Neglect
or 
- Trauma
(most of my younger kids have experienced at least 4 of these if not all of them).

Our kiddos have not had the needed nurturing 
that average middle class American infants/toddlers have experienced
and thrive from.
Therefore,
their brain development is completely different and needs to 
be nurtured where they are,
not where society says they should be...


So, 
when my sweet boy wants to have a bib on at every meal...

you betcha'!!!! 
He can have a bib!!!


Giving him the baby stage that he missed out on 
and so richly deserves!!!

I just love this kiddo!!! 

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

SHOX and a surprise!

Sweet Griggsy had to have blood work done 
for SHOX testing - 
(our mystery man this may be his diagnosis)

Griggs was one brave little guy -


but ohhhh so sad!!

So, 
momma had something up her sleeve to cheer him up!!

Christmas in July!!


We happened to go to the hospital on the right day!


And boy did the little boys and I have fun!!




Making I-Spy Containers,


 and decorating door hangers with Santa!!


Nice job Hagan!!


Way to go Griggsy!!!


Elijah did a great job -
making an "Elijah snowman and
a momma snowman"!


The boys each left with stuffed animals and
another present too!

We sooooo needed this!!
Thank you Children's Medical!



Thursday, July 17, 2014

That smile!!

This boy just amazes me!!

Not because he can do things that people 
think little people can't do -

but because of his attitude!

It takes a lot to disappoint Hagan,
he takes things in stride.
He doesn't get jealous when others get to play soccer,
instead he excited when he gets a chance to 
get on the field and kick the ball around a bit. 

He doesn't have a competitive bone in his body -
but he encourages others! 

He loves to learn, 
learning from experience and 
to learn from books!

But, when we get to surprise him with something
that gives him an even playing field with average height kids...

the smile on his face 
is bigger than life!!!

Yesterday, he was gifted with a new bike from Scottish Rite!
The one they had chosen for him, prior to meeting him,
was just too big.
(Hagan is short even on the Achon Dwarfism height chart).

Mr. Albert, pulled out a different bike,
and Hagan's eyes lit up!!!



He took to riding it quickly!

And then when Mr. Albert asked.
"Do you want to take this bike home?"

Hagan could't believe his ears!

We were at Scottish Rite for 5 more hours -
(just x-rays and check up)
Hagan didn't want to let that bike out of his sight,
and kept asking,
"I take my bike home?"
"yes, buddy!!
You get to take your bike home."

I am so thankful for his amazing smile!! 
and his sweet, sweet attitude!

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Where HE leads I will follow

It seems daily I am preaching to my kids to be 
obedient and respectful.

Every time those words come out of my mouth,
I have to think...
am I being obedient and respectful?

Am I being obedient to my heavenly Father,
am I being respectful and 
doing what HE says to do in a timely manner -
or do I question and put off my obedience. 

I have one child who runs and hides whenever he gets caught
being disobedient.

Am I running and hiding under the covers
because I don't want to admit that I am disobedient.

 I want to do everything on my own,
through our adoption journeys God
has pushed us and baked us to grow more and more in HIM.
Humbling ourselves and leaning on HIM.

We are feeling that God is asking us to allow others
to join our journey of adoption
by prayer and financial support.

I will be sharing more prayer requests here on our blog
as we cherish each prayer and praise 
raised in our behalf.

#1 Prayer request -
Please pray for our baby girl!
Though our adoption agency has asked numerous times for
an update on our girl -
they say that her foster home is too far away
for them to get a report.
Not hearing anything about our girl for this long
is soooo hard!
Praying she is safe, well cared for and getting the nourishment
that she needs.

#2 Prayer request -
Please pray with us that our paperwork gets to China ASAP!!!
This momma is going crazy!!!
It should be about 4 months from the time our paperwork
gets logged in to China
that we travel to bring our little girl home.

I can't wait to get this baby girl in my arms!!

Gotta put a smile on that face!!

We have also set up an adoption fund.
We will be writing for some grants in the next few weeks too.
The paypal account is on the right side of our blog.
Thank you in advance for joining us
in this journey. 

Following HIS lead,
and trying to be obedient -
even when it means humbling myself! 

Friday, July 11, 2014

His mercies are new every morning!

Some days are easier than others,
and some weeks are waaaay easier than others!!!

Seems that after weeks of vacation
and incredibly busy weeks at home -
finding our new summer normal has been incredibly hard.

But I think we are getting there. 

Today Elijah said,
"Momma, I'm trying to not get in trouble."

and that makes me happy -
all I ask is that we all try!
No one needs to be perfect,
but we need to try to learn from each other
and try to be respectful to each other.

Which also means me being respectful to my kiddos.

Some days it is just hard to not want them to obey at my first request -
or my second, 
and soooo hard at my third request...
but I have to remember that my kids have not had good experiences with 
authority in their past.

Obeying meant that they did not have a voice,
that no one wanted to hear what they had to say.
They respond defensively 
rather than listen to learn how to make better choices.

I am not naturally a patient person,
nor do I have a gentle spirit. 
This is something that I have to pray for daily,
and weeks like this past week - 
moment by moment. 

I am incredibly excited, yet terrified 
 to go to 4 days of intense training with Dr. Karyn Purvis -
is it going to be rough! 
Humbling myself to learn how to better parent my kiddos 
is going to be hard! 
I will be packing a ton of tissues as I know I will be broken again and again,
and reminded of all the mistakes I have already made.

Thank God HIS mercies are new every morning and 
and thank God that my children are very forgiving - 
and allow me to make mistakes,
apologize 
and try again too! 


Monday, July 7, 2014

Celebrating 3 years!

3 years ago,
my brother, Jay, and I 
walked out of the orphanage compound with 
two crazy, hyper, little boys!!!


Two boys who had lost so much,
but came with us 
with the faith that only a child can have.



I am still amazed how our children 
have walked into our family with amazing faith.
Faith that we would take care of them,
love them for who they are,
meeting them where they are.

Look at them now -


two absolutely amazing boys who just 
aren't so little anymore.


We are blessed beyond measure to call them 
our sons,
the amazing lessons they have taught us 
is incomparable!!


We love you Donovan and Elijah!!!
To the moon and back!!

Friday, July 4, 2014

Nine!!! Seriously? NINE???

My son turned 9 while we were on vacation!!!


I can't believe he is n-i-n-e!!!

We've only been blessed to call him son 
for 3 years -
but boy is he an Anderson through and through!


When we were matched with Donovan and Elijah,
Donovan was a bit older than we thought we wanted 
to add to our family.
But, thank God we said "yes"-
he is such an amazing brother 
and son!!
We can't imagine our family without him!


We celebrated his birthday at the Henry Doorly Zoo in Omaha!
Donovan loves going to the zoo!!!

We had a great day with our friends,
and had ice cream on the way home,
and "Aunt" Karen 
even had baked him a special birthday cake and gift!!
Thank you Karen!!!


Happy Birthday Donovan!!
We love you!

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Don't judge a book by it's cover

To think people passed on this blessing 
because of fear 
that he wouldn't be self sufficient!


I'm so thankful that never crossed our minds.


Because we probably would have run too!!

But ohhh how blessed are we to 
have our little man in our lives 


and am blessed to call him
"son".

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Kenzie's Graduation

The day came!
(beware photo overload!) 


Kenzie's Graduation cap!
off to MSU!


Where did my baby go?


I love seeing all the caps decorated! 


Everyone was very well behaved during the ceremony!


Well deserved Kenzie!!


Kenzie and her principal, Mr. Spann




okay, the ceremony started getting a little long
for the gang...





Yahooo!!!! 

and momma only cried a little!
(I forgot my tissues -
and didn't want to embarrass Kenzie-
so I controlled myself)

Besties!!!!





Thursday, June 5, 2014

Snag along the way!

Sometimes along the adoption journey -
you just want to quit!

Sometimes the paperwork gets so heavy 
and fighting your case 
gets you down...
enough to give up!!

It is a roller coaster ride of ups and downs,
we dropped down last night 
when we came across a snag!
UGH!!!! 

I don't know if I can take this anymore!!!!

and then I sit and pray,
and look at this face...


and then I look at these babies...


what if we had given up -
where would they be?

So, press on we will!!

She WILL come home!!!





Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Growth is hard

As you all know…
Hagan is one amazing guy!


He has walked into our family and has seemed to 
embrace family -
and all that a family is.
He let's us take care of him,
but doesn't expect us to do everything for him.

Recently, we have seen more growth in him…
and this growth is hard.
He is releasing some memories from his past.
Telling us some stories,
or parts of stories.


It just hurts this momma so bad that I don't know his
life story for the first 5 years.
I know, I know… 
I've seen and will see so many firsts in his life now -
but really,
how he reacts to situations in his life
all stem from the experiences in his first 5 years of life. 
And it wasn't good. 


He is an amazing kiddo -
who tries to see the good in life,
and embrace his family and friends…
but lately,
I have seen the fear filled side of him,
and this breaks my heart! 

He has had to grow up too fast.
I wish I could have gotten to him sooner
and saved him from all of this pain.


But for now,
we take it day by day,
moment by moment,
working through the hurts and fears that plague him.
Praying this second year being home with us helps him grow
in trust and confidence. 

Thursday, May 29, 2014

My baby is getting so big!!!

I can't believe how BIG my Griggsy is getting!!!

His smile still lights up a room,
and his giggle is infectious!!


He just keeps getting more and more fun! 

My once quiet little guy,
who would sit still on my lap for hours
feels the need to be on the move all the time.

He loves being a big boy! 
He loves learning and
 loves playing!

Ohhhh how I love my boy!!!!


He still loves sitting on momma's lap -
and I am soooo willing to keep him here with me!


Wednesday, May 28, 2014

What am I going to do?

7 days of school before my oldest daughter 
graduates High School.
sniff! sniff!

I have been asked many times if I am ready 
for her to graduate -

and you know what?



I am.

Kenzie has grown into a beautiful woman,
who is funny, 
intelligent,
independent,
and even
 wise 
for a 17 year old.


I'm not sure what I am going to do without her 
next year,
she's a fun shopping partner,
and she fixes all my technology issues,
she helps me corral the youngin's 
but mostly 
I'm going to miss her laughter 
and our silly chats!


But, this is what our goal as parents is -
to raise them to be able to go into the world 
with a good head on their shoulders 
and succeed
and Kenzie is ready to fly! 

Kenzie,
we are soooo proud of you!! 

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