What the Today Show forgot to mention

Today the Today show did a report on 

"re-homing" internationally adopted children.

I'm not sure where they did their research because 

I don't believe their research was thorough. 

They said that this is like child trafficking.

I must disagree. 

As y'all know, we have six internationally adopted children.

Six beautiful children whom we love 

as much as our biological children.

The first time I ever heard of disrupting an adoption -

I had very strong feelings against it.

 I guess I still have strong feelings but have grown

in my response. 

I don't know of any adoptive parent who goes into 

an adoption without their hearts open to a beautiful child,

wanting to love this child as their own,

and willing to do anything for this child. 

In International adoption,

 (I wont speak for domestic adoption because we have never

adopted domestically - so I have no knowledge.)

a family is given a "file".

This file contains information that the orphanage discloses  -

heath reports, and personality reports. 

Some of these reports are correct,

some are not. 

Sometimes the reality of a child's health or emotional status 

is less then portrayed 

and sometimes the reality is more. 

Example:

Jorja's report said that she was HepB

and that at 4 yrs of age she could not stack 3 blocks.

Jorja is the healthiest person in our family -

and believe me she can stack more then 3 blocks.

Elijah's report said that he was a girl.

Guess what? 

He's a boy!!!

Hagan's report said nothing 

about his sleep apnea, or his spinal compression.

And though medical issues are easier to understand,

there are many emotional issues that were not in our children's files -

some have been easy to work through,

some not so much!

There are also friends of mine whose adopted children could not 

accept the love of a family. 

They manipulated, lied, deceived, and endangered 

the adoptive family. 

I know for a fact that non of these families threw their children away.

I know for a fact that they all have suffered through 

this journey along with the child. 

I do believe all children deserve a family.

But sometimes, it takes a while to get that child

in the perfect family. 

I also believe that this goes back to my post a few months ago,

I plead.

We need to support the adoptive families. 

Some of our children have scars that take a lifetime to heal,

and some will never heal.

Without support from the body of Christ 

there will be more disruptions.  

I ask,

if you are contemplating adoption -

do not go into it blindly.

please go into the adoption with as much knowledge as you possibly can.

I know that most agencies require specific reading and training,

but remember -

it's different when it is in your house. 

Remember, every child, and situation is different.

Your life will be changed,

your child's life will be changed,

with knowledge and support we can pray that it will change for the better.

Without knowledge there will be more disruptions.

Please, if you are having a hard time with your adopted child,

as anyone having a hard time with their biological child...

reach out. 

Don't hide it - it's not good for anyone. 

and FYI - I have never heard of a disruption, re-homing,
situation that the new family did not have a home study
and a social worker in place!

I also know there is evil in the world and there are horrible
stories of children being used.
But, the media cannot be able to make it sound like
anyone who disrupts an adoption is evil.