The long wait...

Because adoption is usually a long process,

and children need a home and family,

and

parents yearn to hold their child(ren)...

this doesn't make the transition to parenthood 

easy.

Having fallen in love with my two girls 

half the world away, 

through a simple photograph 

and a few sentences describing their personalities...

when parent and child are finally united,

and life is not the incredible union described 

in the fairy tales.

That is okay!

This does not make one a horrible parent.

This doesn't make one a horrible child.

This doesn't mean God's hand was not 

involved in this union.

Adoption is a long road,

orphaned children have a lot of issues to

work through.

Adoptive parents have a lot of issues to 

work through.

Parenthood is difficult enough...

please allow adoptive parents, who are not 

experiencing a fairy tale adoption, 

to grieve some too -

the long wait, 

the decorating of a room,

preparing toys and clothing,

and all those child safe locks...

let these parents share their feelings without

feeling guilty,

listen without judging,

 love them -

so they can pass this love to their 

child(ren).